“I want to lose Fat and stop drinking so much diet coke. My doctor says I have to as my blood pressure higher and higher.”
My client, “Dora” was sharing her frustration of being on various diets and programs to reduce her Fat and eat healthier.
I asked Dora to tell me more. How did she feel about her situation?
“I feel hopeless. As long as I remember I’ve been struggling with Fat. My mother thought I was chunky and had made comments for as long as I remember that ‘Dora you have such a pretty face, if you just lost a few pounds you would be more attractive.’”
Dora shared that her mother had Fat issues too, in fact she often made herself and Dora a different meal at dinner time.
“How did that make you feel?” I asked.
“I hated it. I wanted to eat like everyone else. Especially when going to school. My mom was a health freak, so I was eating dry rye bread with a thin piece of meat and iceburg lettuce on it while my sister had PB and J sandwiches (Peanut butter and jelly sandwiches). It was so unfair.”
Dora’s voice was getting higher and stronger. I took a rating of her feeling of it being unfair. It was about a 9.
We tapped (did EFT) on this feeling of unfairness and this clear memory of eating her rye bread sandwich.
“Take a deep breath Dora,” I told her. She did. “What is coming up for you?”
“You know, I feel for my mom. I was angry when we were first tapping but now I feel bad, she has had Fat problems all her life. She told me she was made fun of at school and by her family.” Dora paused and then laughed.
“Crazy as this sounds, I did feel sort of special when mom and I went to her jazzercise (exercise) class and was the only kid in there. Mom would announce to our family that ‘Dora and I are going to our class, you’ll have to make dinner for yourselves.’
“Dora, I have an odd question to ask you. I want you to answer whatever first comes to mind and take your time answering it.” I paused and waited until she was ready.
“When you finally lose the Fat that you have trying to get rid of all these years, what else will you lose?”
I waited.
“I am much closer to mom than my older sister.” Dora let out a heavy sigh. “Maybe I am afraid to let go of my mom, I mean we bonded over our Fat.”
I’ve seen over and over that often there is something that we are afraid to lose when the Fat comes off. This is why at the right time, I often ask this question.
“What will you lose?”
As you are using EFT for Fat loss I encourage you to ask this question, “what will I lose besides the Fat?” You can even tap the question to get the answer, and I will share how to do that in a future article.
And Dora?
She’s doing well. She’s drinking much less diet coke (I taught her how to use EFT for this craving) and is realizing that there is a part of her that is wanting to let go of some co-dependence with her mom.
And now Dora smiles when she thinks of jazzercise.
